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Are you the mom of a teen? There is hope in the chaos and crisis.

February 23, 2018 By Patty Leave a Comment

23 Feb

I remember bringing my son home from the hospital.  No class or book prepared me for this!  Here I stood, baby in arms, already exhausted.  I knew then I would do anything for him.  It is staggering to consider the role we take on when we become a mom.  If we think parenting our infants or toddlers involves being in over our heads, we’ve got another thing coming when our child becomes a teen!

If you’re in this stage of motherhood, you already know what I’m talking about.  Even if you have adult children, you can look back remembering the trials and concern moms of adolescents face.  In our home, we’ve been through some growing pains with our teen son.  It was because of these experiences I decided to write “Parenting Your Teen Through Chaos & Crisis” which is now available to purchase on Amazon.com.  

“Parenting Your Teen Through Chaos & Crisis” on amazon.com in print or ebook

I’ll share a little excerpt from the beginning of the book with you here.  My heart is to help moms of teens to overcome guilt, be empowered to take hold of their role as an influencer and be equipped to allow and implement consequences in effective ways.  


From Chapter One:

“You Didn’t Cause It” 

Jon and I were sitting in a counseling session the summer of our son’s 14th year.  We had been experiencing some normal conflict over parenting.  For us, that means a trip to the therapist to work through things before they get too big.  As we sat in the session, I shared concerns about rebellious tendencies we were seeing emerge.  Out of the blue, our therapist got up from her chair, walked over and sat opposite me on the couch.  She said four powerful words that would change my parenting perspective forever. 

Quietly, she said, “You didn’t cause it.”  I said, “I know, I know.”  She repeated herself.  “You didn’t cause this, Patty.”  “Yes, I know.”  Again, she persisted.  “Patty, this isn’t your fault.”  Third time’s the charm.  I popped open like a dam with so much pressure behind the carefully constructed wall.  I sat bawling on the couch as she and Jon remained present with me. 

Something hidden revealed itself to me in that moment.  I had held a belief in my mind common to so many of us moms.  Under the surface, below my awareness, I thought I had caused the parts of my son that were now bringing us all difficulty.  Like you, I’ve had my not-so-pretty moments as a mother.  I’ve raised my voice, been impatient, and done harm to his heart.  Though that isn’t the pattern in our home, there have been seasons where my threshold for his misbehavior was not very wide.  Top that off with the naturally perfectionistic expectations we all tend to place on our firstborn, and I concluded I was the culprit behind all that was unlovely in him. 

I can’t really explain why this particular counseling session broke the levee.  In my right mind, I know we all are sinful.  Every child has the tendency to sin, whether they are reared in a wonderful home or one steeped in dysfunction.  Truthfully, most normal homes are a combination of both.  I knew that.  Let’s just say mommy guilt had woven itself into my psyche and I was under the delusion that my failings created his rebellion.  

Sugar and Spice

Shortly after this breakthrough, I started having little flashes of the good Jon and I had poured into the life and heart of our son.  I could be washing the dishes and a thought would come about how my husband read the Bible with him every night before bed all the way through his 7th birthday (when his baby brother was born).  As I walked through the park, I would remember all the years playing on that playground.  Putting books up on a shelf, I would remember the years of prayers I prayed daily with my prayer partner – over every single aspect of his life and character. 

Being freed up from the weight of thinking his struggles could be traced back to my inadequacies, I now saw a balance of what I had been like as a mom.  The good actually far outweighed the brokenness.  Letting go of a false sense of responsibility has proven to be quintessential to the ensuing years of parenthood.  As my son faced greater trials, the fact that I was released from owning the “cause” factor, has allowed me to truly focus on being a blessing and support to him. 


A “Me Too” and a “How To”

  • Do you struggle with guilt as the mom of a teen?  
  • Have you tried to control your child – to make them see things you see or choose the way you know they should?
  • Are you wondering what you can do in the face of their current struggles?  

I’ve been there too.  I hope as you read my book, you will feel as though we are sitting together having a cup of coffee or tea and sharing our hearts.  By the time you finish this book, you will feel empowered and encouraged.  The book is short enough to read in less than two hours cover to cover.  You will not only survive this season of motherhood – you can thrive through it.  

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About Patty

I write to encourage your heart, feed your soul, and give you wisdom for your life. Motherhood is my passion. I've been married to my surfer/skater husband for over 20 years.  We have two boys and a home full of neighbor kids most days.

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Ahhhh … enemies to more. 🔥 The banter is so f Ahhhh … enemies to more. 🔥
The banter is so fun!

Chris and Ella Mae start out getting on one another’s nerves … then, due to completely unexpected circumstances, they end up fake dating … and then they drive one another crazy in a whole different sense of the phrase 😉🥰

Ripped & Shipped comes out early May. I’m about 🤏 close to finishing it and sending it to my editor.

ARC Team sign ups will be coming for ebooks on Saturday (Apr 1). Paperback team is already selected and will be getting a welcome email by this weekend. 

We are going to have so much fun launching this book! I can’t even tell you the feelings I have … wrapping up this first Bordeaux series, writing this story that’s full of heart, and laughs, and kisses that make you grab a glass of ice water and fan yourself. 🔥😘🧊💦🫠

I’m so grateful you’re along for the ride. There aren’t words for the sweetness of sharing the Getting Shipped series with you. 💕

(And I’ve been loosely plotting the next series and getting excited as I start writing the Love Trippin’ books.) 💕

Do you love enemies to lovers?
Fake dating? 
Let me know … 

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Okay. So. Yes, we are still waiting for Ripped & Okay. So. 
Yes, we are still waiting for Ripped & Shipped to come out and be in your happy little hands on May 1st. 

But, authors are always (usually) a book ahead of the readers. 

And, this time, I’m a whole series ahead. 

I’m thinking about “Are We There Yet?” It’s the first book in the Love Trippin’ series. 

Four people from Bordeaux (yes!!) are traveling to California where the next series takes place. 

This first book takes place over a road trip (after a few chapters in Bordeaux, and before the later chapters in Cali).

So, I want to plan this road trip!
Im a road-tripper, and I grew up spending summers traveling from state to state with my family. 

I know my road trip stories. 
I want to hear YOURS! 
Leave it in the comments or DM me. 🚗🌳🚧🏔️

I’m not going to use your exact story, of course. But, if your story inspires something in the book, I’ll send you a free sticker and bookmark when “Are We There Yet” releases this summer. 

I’m so excited to share this new series with you!

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Writing retreat A few days on the central coast. Writing retreat 

A few days on the central coast. 

Views. 
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Sweet conversation 
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Dreaming about the next series. 
Thinking about how to bless moms and women 

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Would the Rob & Laura fans raise your hands? 🙋🏼‍♀️

My husband and I are listening to the audiobook of Battleshipped together right now. It takes us forever because: life. But, it’s been fun to revisit their story. 

If you love a slightly geeky leading man, a strong female lead with a loyal heart and a persevering spirit, Battleshipped is for you. 

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QOTD: Do you love when a brainy male lead becomes your book boyfriend? Which brainy male characters have stolen your heart? 

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Is it Wednesday? Um no. No it is not. But, do y Is it Wednesday? 
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But, do you still want this #WIPWednesday teaser from Ripped & Shipped? Why yes, yes you do. 

I’ll tell y’all. This book is coming along. And it is scrum-diddly-umptious. 

We’re talking banterrrrrr!
And all the swoony enemy vibes. 

And then they start faking! 
What? yasssss. They fake. The enemies start to fake a romance. 

Then … a completely unexpected and sweeeet friendship develops. 

But, ruh-roh. One of them catches feelings (just quoting Duke here). 

And it gets so HOT ( in a very closed-door way) and so HEARTFELT. 

This story is special. It’s the last in Bordeaux. So I’m pouring it all out into this book. 

You’ve got Memaw, Esther, and Mabel. 
The Bordeaux friend group. 
Lulabelle 
Ella Mae
Cooter
And so much more. 

I’m not kidding when I say this may be my fave in series. 

And you know what it means when I say I’m about 3/4 done writing? Yep. I just might release this story in May … ARC Team wannabes, lace up your running shoes. I’ll be posting opportunities to join the few open spots the first week of April. ❤️

Wait til you see the cover, too. Gah. I love it!! 

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Heyyyyy ARC Team! If you were on the ARC team fo Heyyyyy ARC Team! 

If you were on the ARC team for Cruiseshipped, our exclusive ARC Team only book chat is coming!

Tomorrow (Thursday March 23) at 5p PT we’ll be gathering on zoom to talk about Cruiseshipped. 

I’m so grateful to each one of you for reading, sharing, and reviewing Cruiseshipped. ❤️ 

So … mark your calendars and set your alarms (and a countdown is in my stories!) and let’s talk all things Brooks + Gabby ❤️🚢💃🏻

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Well, I’m back with another #mememonday and this Well, I’m back with another #mememonday and this one is featuring one of my favorite movies EVER: The Princess Bride!

Which slide do you like best? 

And … aside from posting here today, I’m writing! Ripped & Shipped (Chris’ story) is halfway done! 

I’m on a roll now, and my family is going to an amusement park for the day (without me), so I’m alone with Bella and my laptop. 

Then, this weekend, I’ve got a writing retreat. The final book in the Getting Shipped series is going to be written! 

Not saying we won’t have some novellas down the road … mayyyybe we could. (Who would you want to see in a Getting Shipped novella?)

I hope your Monday is GREAT!!

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